This book captures the essence of modern family life. Much has changed since our own childhoods; "the good old days". Today's parents are challenged by the need to invent their own parenting style. This can only happen from within, based on our personal values and boundaries. Jesper Juul puts it very clearly: "The love we feel for our children and our partners does not in itself have any value. It has no value at all until it is converted into loving behavior." Each chapter focuses on the values that form a solid platform on which to build a family: Equal dignity, Integrity, Authenticity and Responsibility. This makes family life more meaningful and parents avoid living frantically from conflict to conflict, desperately searching for quick solutions and trying to adapt to the most popular parenting technique of the day.